SOCIAL MEDIA GOT 23 YEAR OLDS THINKING THEY ALREADY FAILED IN LIFE ‼️

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 It's wild how you can be 23, with your entire life ahead of you, and still feel like you've somehow already fallen behind. 


Your thought is spot on: social media has created this bizarre, accelerated timeline where if you haven't founded a startup, gotten engaged in a picturesque Dubai hotel, or landed your six-figure dream job straight out of high school, you're failing. 

As someone who is literally this age, I feel this in my bones.

Our feeds are a relentless highlight reel of everyone else’s perceived success. It’s peer pressure on an unimaginable scale. 

It’s not just the kids from your high school anymore; it’s a curated global network of peers, influencers, and celebrities presenting a flawless version of their lives. 

You see someone your age buying a house, and you're still figuring out how to split rent with three roommates. You see a glamorous travel influencer on their tenth trip this year, and you’re saving up just to afford a weekend away. 

The context is always missing—the family money, the years of unseen work, the lucky breaks—but the feeling of inadequacy it leaves behind is very real and very immediate.

Then there's the celebrity and influencer effect. 

We grew up watching people like Kylie Jenner become billionaires before they could legally rent a car. While we know it's not a normal path, it warps our perception of what's possible and by when.

The line between a celebrity and a "normal" person has blurred, so when an influencer who feels like a peer posts about their brand deals and effortless success, it stings in a way that feels personal. It creates an unattainable benchmark that we subconsciously measure ourselves against.The most dangerous part is that it's completely unrestricted. The algorithm is designed to show us what we’ll engage with, and that often means content that makes us feel envious or aspirational. There’s no off-switch. 

We carry these impossible standards in our pockets, scrolling through them before we go to sleep and the moment we wake up.The truth is, at 23, we're just starting. We're meant to be a little lost, to make mistakes, to have messy apartments and entry-level jobs. 

That's where the actual living happens, not in the perfectly filtered, 10-second clips we see online. The biggest challenge for our generation is learning to unplug from the collective race and trust in the timing of our own, uncurated lives. 

Teenager ends at 19 years old, meaning from 20 you become a young adult- (young adult). you're just 23, it's only been 3 years you've been an adult; no one is expecting you to have figured everything out, stop pressurising yourself, relax'a fondin your life just started fr.. kothi kuphi kube kuphi? 

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